tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711592835943839614.post4712474967634645879..comments2022-11-02T04:54:27.616-07:00Comments on Paula E. Bruce Ph.D. : The Pocket Psychologist: The Fear of Intimacy: Cat and Mouse Games in RelationshipsPaula Bruce, Ph.D.http://www.blogger.com/profile/09584385397659625123noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711592835943839614.post-3715579338961355392017-07-13T03:30:51.803-07:002017-07-13T03:30:51.803-07:00Great article. As a divorce lawyer in practice fo...Great article. As a divorce lawyer in practice for 33 years who has represented hundreds of clients going through one of the most difficult experiences an adult can have, the break-up of a relationship, I often think about relationship issues. In my estimation, half of the couples could have easily saved their relationships, and the other half should have been divorced yesterday. <br /><br />I love talking about these issues with my father, a spry 80 year old. My dad was a military man by day, and a nightclub singer and pianist on the weekends, an unusual combination. When we have dinner together in New York, just father and son, the talk always turns to relationships. And he always has the same message, "...men and women act like Tom and Jerry...they don't want the other person to fully understand them, their thoughts, their true feelings, and their real needs...because they are scared as hell that the other person will exploit them after learning their vulnerabilities...".<br /><br />So in my humble view, the Pocket Psychologist, quite gorgeous I might add, is spot on in her assessment of why couples act like cat and mouse in relationships. <br /><br />Keep up the good work.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711592835943839614.post-30562709369218707642016-01-20T06:50:52.119-08:002016-01-20T06:50:52.119-08:00Article makes great points, but does not suggest, ...Article makes great points, but does not suggest, or offer any help, fixing these issuesAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711592835943839614.post-71117974201582540382015-05-01T22:05:58.370-07:002015-05-01T22:05:58.370-07:00Yes, that!Yes, that!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711592835943839614.post-50186365793408094792015-04-30T17:35:39.102-07:002015-04-30T17:35:39.102-07:00But how do you break free and connect on a deeper ...But how do you break free and connect on a deeper level? How do you establish an intimate relationship?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711592835943839614.post-80878889527295272042014-06-13T12:21:21.287-07:002014-06-13T12:21:21.287-07:00Boil it down to this: whoever is first to say &quo...Boil it down to this: whoever is first to say "I love you," loses.Tim Kernhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13311378469790949468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711592835943839614.post-32709454314558232412013-07-18T21:20:29.568-07:002013-07-18T21:20:29.568-07:00This hit me in the same place I claim to hold feel...This hit me in the same place I claim to hold feelings for the mouse I love. Thanks, Dr..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711592835943839614.post-35563703709861574762012-02-29T20:46:45.589-08:002012-02-29T20:46:45.589-08:00This very interesting. For someone like myself wh...This very interesting. For someone like myself who has a definitive approach on relationship I wonder rather I am the cat or the mouse. This so-called relationship is burdensome. I enjoy being chanced. But I sometimes more than I like, I find myself doing the chasing. I am frustrated. Your definition is on point. I am ready for counseling to get to the root of the problems of not being able to trust. If I can ever get him to commit to counseling. In the meantime I will not chase. I will pray.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711592835943839614.post-91644199120832072552011-03-06T00:55:22.253-08:002011-03-06T00:55:22.253-08:00For those who have the same situation be strong en...For those who have the same situation be strong enough to face the life we deal with.. I have mine too.. in the end we caught up in confusion n stressful.. enjoy ur life while u can..<br /><br />peace!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711592835943839614.post-30400893384818936562010-06-23T00:50:59.503-07:002010-06-23T00:50:59.503-07:00Been there, done that, and will suffer. :( All my ...Been there, done that, and will suffer. :( All my relationships has been like this. Endless cat and mouse -games.<br /><br />Thank you for this article.<br /><br />-2000manAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711592835943839614.post-46102560334573624322010-02-07T08:08:47.237-08:002010-02-07T08:08:47.237-08:00Good and interesting article, thanks. I was recent...Good and interesting article, thanks. I was recently told I was engaging in this activity, possibly without realising it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com